5 Things to Say When Reaching Out to a Friend Right Now
BLOG #194 FOR FRI. FEB 26, 2021
— 5 Things to Say When Reaching Out to A Friend Right Now
- Start simple with a note with invitation to chat:
- “Haven’t talked in a while. Do you have a few minutes for a phone call?”
- “A month has gone by. Too long. Do you have a few minutes for a phone call?”
- “Thinking about you a lot. Do you have a few minutes when you might be available?”
- “We haven’t spoken for awhile. Do you have time for a phone call in the next few days?”
- Nice reaching-out is to make sure there’s enough time for both of you to share the good and bad.
- You can ask, “Is this still a good time to talk?” The person might tell you about how much time they have to talk, for example, by saying, “I’ve got another appointment in 20 minutes.”
- When you are close to the time you must leave the phone call, you could say: “I’m so sorry, I’ve got another appointment in five minutes.” That allows the situation for a change of topic or prompts the other to ask how things are going for you.
- Satisfying communication for both people often happens when both people communicate meaningfully. Sharing about what you have been working on lately, family, or hobby build connectedness and rapport.
- Consider the greeting “How’s it going?”
- This question focuses on circumstances. The question “How are you” in the North American culture is most often answered as if it were a greeting and most often answered with “Fine”. In contrast, “how’s it going” allows the other person to share event details, both bad and good.
- When a person, perhaps you, has ongoing difficulties, “I’m hanging in there” is a brief colloquial or casual talk response.
- Mirror their emotions. Ask questions.
- Mirroring is the behavior of one person unconsciously imitating the gesture, manner of speech or attitude of another. It seems to establish a sense of empathy.
- Use what the other person is saying as the natural guide in giving ideas and cues about what you might say or ask.
- Allow yourself to be accessible, to reveal some things about yourself, including the not-so-good.
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